BookStudyDigest

Thursday, 1 August 2024

August 3rd-Approaching the 4th Anniversary of My son’s passing

August 3, 2024 will be here soon. This day is about survival. I mentioned in previous posts how the anniversary of a child's death is a profoundly terrible remembrance. What gives meaning to the day outside of the cataclysmic jolt, the primal wai…
Read on blog or Reader
Site logo image Christy Hyman Read on blog or Reader

August 3rd-Approaching the 4th Anniversary of My son's passing

By Christy Hyman, PhD (spatialhuman6) on August 1, 2024

August 3, 2024 will be here soon.

This day is about survival.

I mentioned in previous posts how the anniversary of a child's death is a profoundly terrible remembrance. What gives meaning to the day outside of the cataclysmic jolt, the primal wail, keening, and absolute terror of remembering the day your child died?


Jacques Callot, and French. Doe Mourning Her Foal. c. 1592 - 1635. Etching. The National Gallery of Art (Washington, D.C.); R.L. Baumfeld Collection. https://jstor.org/stable/community.14804716.

An incredibly strange thing begins to happen as the days lead up to the death date. You begin to recall, with remarkable clarity, the things you were doing up until that day. Your phone holds the photos of quotidian captures of the everyday, in my case during the global pandemic, these days creep into my present awareness. It is a God-awful element of grief and trauma. There is something very explosive for the heart in knowing when death changed your entire being. When your entire personality shifts from the you of BEFORE and the you that is AFTER.

August 29, 2020. 27 days after my son passed. I'd lost 30 lbs and the only thing I wanted to do was sleep and tend to plants.

Because of the sorrowful depths that grief may take you, one has to maintain some semblance of control. As grievers we know we have no control, but when it comes to the cutting pangs of grief, you can quite literally fall away.

I think of Lisa Marie Presley

I think of Sinead O'Connor

The late singer and humanitarian Sinead O'Connor with her late son, Shane.

This can kill you.

Grief can kill you. And if it does not kill you by putting you six feet deep underground, you can waste away in your sorrow.

So again I say: This day is about survival. And how we kept on in our purpose.

Like

Christy Hyman © 2024.
Manage your email settings or unsubscribe.

WordPress.com and Jetpack Logos

Get the Jetpack app

Subscribe, bookmark, and get real‑time notifications - all from one app!

Download Jetpack on Google Play Download Jetpack from the App Store
WordPress.com Logo and Wordmark title=

Automattic, Inc.
60 29th St. #343, San Francisco, CA 94110

at August 01, 2024
Email ThisBlogThis!Share to XShare to FacebookShare to Pinterest

No comments:

Post a Comment

Newer Post Older Post Home
Subscribe to: Post Comments (Atom)

The Consecrated Eminence: Reflections on the Objects Collection

...

  • [New post] Mackintosh — Beyond the Swelkie (2021)
    peterson10 posted: "Mackintosh, Jim, and Paul S. Philippou, eds. Beyond the Swelkie: A Collection of Poems and Writings Cel...
  • PLDT Home honors mothers on their special day with a heartwarming video titled Backstage Moms
    Motherhood is definitely one of the hardest endeavors a woman can take in her li...
  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e4HzWQvkVWY&list=PL3yuCT4HAt-cxd8mbfqU-9oN6bsd4YOzmhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e4HzWQvkVWY&list=PL3yuCT4HAt-cxd8mbfqU-9oN6bsd4YOzm
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e4HzWQvkVWY&list=PL3yuCT4HAt-cxd8mbfqU-9oN6b...

Search This Blog

  • Home

About Me

BookStudyDigest
View my complete profile

Report Abuse

Blog Archive

  • April 2025 (1)
  • September 2024 (859)
  • August 2024 (946)
  • July 2024 (879)
  • June 2024 (843)
  • May 2024 (875)
  • April 2024 (1018)
  • March 2024 (1239)
  • February 2024 (1135)
  • January 2024 (934)
  • December 2023 (923)
  • November 2023 (818)
  • October 2023 (743)
  • September 2023 (712)
  • August 2023 (722)
  • July 2023 (629)
  • June 2023 (566)
  • May 2023 (584)
  • April 2023 (629)
  • March 2023 (551)
  • February 2023 (399)
  • January 2023 (514)
  • December 2022 (511)
  • November 2022 (455)
  • October 2022 (530)
  • September 2022 (418)
  • August 2022 (412)
  • July 2022 (452)
  • June 2022 (467)
  • May 2022 (462)
  • April 2022 (516)
  • March 2022 (459)
  • February 2022 (341)
  • January 2022 (385)
  • December 2021 (596)
  • November 2021 (1210)
Powered by Blogger.